After dealing with the rush hour traffic that you just can’t wait to get through, you arrive home to greet your partner and give him/her the amazing news. You are busting at the seams because the excitement of being promoted to a top position in another country is just too much to contain. You can’t wait to tell your partner and expect the similar exciting feeling from them that you have in your heart.
But it doesn’t always work that way. In this day and age, both partners are striving to advance their careers. Often times, children are involved and life is already hectic what with baseball games, dance class and other random events that require the family’s presence.
Boy, it’s hard enough to convey the news to the kids but they are usually easier to prepare for an international move. And then you realize that your spouse is not so crazy about the idea. If you are an empty nester (kids are grown and gone) the prospect of moving overseas may seem like an exciting adventure.
Preparing Your Spouse for an International Move
Hopefully, the international relocation is something was expected to some degree and you have already had a chance to discuss the possibilities. Each of you have family and friends. The prospect of moving half way around the world can prompt feelings of loss and depression. Here are a few ways to make the adjustment a little bit easier.
- Involve your partner in the planning of the move beginning with online sites that are relevant to your destination. Depending on the urgency of your transfer, you may want to schedule a trip to orientate yourselves with your new environment. Take the kids if you can.
- Promote the romanticism of your new adventure. A new land, new friends and new opportunities are all attainable at your future residence. Every country has different attractions and nuances that can be explored by the whole family.
- Depending on your relocation destination, you may find an increase in income and a lower cost of living. The attraction of being able to save more money for your future as a family or increase your disposable income as a retiree should be seen as a favorable aspect of the move.
- We know that the world is not perfect and you will likely experience some pitfalls in your new country. Prior to the move, you may want to consider taking foreign language studies with your spouse so that you are partially prepared for the culture change. Conversing at home with your new language skills can add confidence in your partner and you.
- When both of you look at your international move as an adventure, you can imagine the stories you will be able to relate to friends and family back home. After all, with today’s air travel you are never really farther than 24 hours from home.
If possible, try to schedule periodic visits at home and make sure that you both have access to Skype or VOIP online so that you can regularly communicate with the friends and family that you left behind. Nothing is forever; enjoy your adventure and make the most of it.